Thursday, February 25, 2016

A Good Kid



I’ve written in the past about parenting, and here I go again… perhaps it is because it is my biggest struggle, and I want to share my experiences with you, plus receive feedback.

I had a revelation recently from which I think parents whose kids are receiving therapy may benefit. 

My oldest son is 4 1/2. He attends a local preschool and is struggling. He is genetically prone to ADD and anxiety, and has no interest in learning. In addition, he is still learning appropriate social skills, such as keeping his hands and feet to himself in line. His teachers have recommended that he get tested by our local school district for any learning disabilities before he starts kindergarten. I wasn’t opposed to the idea. I want him to receive the best opportunities possible. However, through the process, I had to answer hundreds of questions regarding his abilities. It can be depressing when your child isn’t on the same level as his peers, but my revelation is this… he’s a wonderful kid with a sweet heart and he is intelligent in his own way. More importantly, he’s my child and I love him unconditionally. Recognizing this has dramatically changed my attitude. I am no longer stressed about his flaws. I am motivated to get him the extra help he needs.

I understand your child may have more severe disabilities or behavior problems, but I encourage you to remember the qualities that make him/her wonderful. You will still have struggles, but hopefully it will make the struggles feel more worth it.